land of morals and judement

so i started writing this post a week ago, and then my computer turned off as i finished, so i am giving it one more shot:
so i realized two weekends ago , when i went to milwaukee for erika and jeremy's wedding, how much i have really acclimated to living in nyc. i see it here and there when i go home, but not as much. i have always been a little "off kilter" at home. out of place maybe. a little too liberal for indianapolis, especially for a lot of my family. but i was always was on par with my madison friends. but when i went back it was like i was so out of step. i guess it's that i'm so used to not having to deal with the bullshit, the judgement, and everyone else pushing their morals on you.
ex: in nyc you can just cut through the bullshit, and no one is offended. it's great. i don't know how many times i've been out and talking to a guy and flat out said "i'm not having sex with you tonight". either he politely exits left, stage right, and we're both fine, or we keep talking because he's actually interested, and again, we're both fine with that. that is a normal exchange. if i said that in wisconsin, the guy would get all upset. like, oh! i wasn't trying to sleep with you! bitch please.
ex: in nyc it's not a big deal to hook up, and one night stands happen all the time. i had a friend who slept with this girl, and they didn't even exchange phone numbers. why? they had no intention of calling each other again. mentioning something like this in wisconsin gets you the LOOK OF DEATH. oh my god!! who does something like that!?! ***judgement*** who cares? as long as everyone is safe and gets what they want... what's the problem? but midwest boys don't move that fast. here all a girl has to do is send up a flare and she can get whatever she wants. a midwest boys says he's down for whatever, but in reality when push comes to shove it just won't happen.
so all i can say is i am glad i no longer live in the land of morals and judgement.

playing politics

anyone who knows me know i am vehemently pro-choice. i support choice, insurance equity (AKA why will you pay for viagra and not my bc pills?!), funding for family planning and AIDS education overseas, and i think abstinence education is the same as supporting ignorance, and even though i am catholic i think condoms and birth contol are gifts from god. :) a bill was recently passed by the senate that truly angers me because it hits close to home. this bill makes it a crime to transport a minor to another state to have an abortion. it sounds heinous, but think about the situation: you are a 15-17 year old girl, pregnant, many times the person you can turn to for advice is not your parent. your parent may be one of those worst-case scenarios. and when 98% of US counties don't have abortion providers, in many cases your closest clinic may be out of state.

i know many people may say, oh parents are understanding, blah blah blah, no one actually gets kicked out of their home for getting pregnant anymore. i wish that were true. my cousin told me she was pregnant two years ago. she hadn't told her mom yet, obviously. my aunt was an evangelical christian who upon finding out my cousin was having sex said "she doesn't need to go on birth control, that's not in god's plan. besides she won't be having sex anymore." that was three months prior. i asked her what she wanted to do, whether she wanted to keep the baby. she couldn't get an abortion in Indiana without consent from her mother, which was NEVER going to happen. i told her that we could go to Illinois if she wanted, there are no parental consent laws there. she thought it over and decided to keep the baby. happy ending right? well after she told her mother, her mother decided that she wasn't mature enough to care for the baby, and forced her to give the childup for adoption. told her point blank: "if you keep the baby, you cannot stay in this house." it's hard to raise a child that way, seventeen and homeless. so she gave the baby up, is still in denial and depression over it, and was kicked out anyway- for still dating her boyfriend.

don't mistake what i'm saying as abortion being a"problem solver". i am illustrating a point, not all teenagers can turn to their parents. and the testimony used to support the bill is flimsy, at best. a clinic will not preform any procedure on any unwilling patient. you have to receive pre-abortion counseling before a procedure. preforming an abortion on a reticent 14 year old would only leave them open to litigation. is this the whole story? or just what this woman has convinced herself to be the truth?

heart all a-flutter

so i was looking around on tiffany's (yes the exalted blue box tiffany and co) website last night, for a good reason though. I received a bracelet as a bridesmaid gift and i was trying to find out how to properly care for it. anyway, i see the little link for engagement rings, and for some reason i click. here i am, a girl who cannot imagine getting married anytime soon, and i am all aflutter over engagement rings. they are fabulous. before i know it i am picking out my own rings, starting at a paltry 10 grand mind you. is this some sort of genetic abnomality that girls have? a genetic predisposition? or just a lifetime of socialization? i have no plans on getting married for a while. i want to be established in my career first, and i don't plan on settling. but everytime i see that blue box...

karma karma karma chameleon

so here's a little karmic insight for ya: if you tell your girlfriend that you don't really see what the problem is that your friend is cheating on his girlfriend, as long as he doesn't tell her she won't get hurt, right? one of two things might happen:
1. she will break up with you after seeing what a heartless bastard you are.
2. she will cheat on you.
not necessarily in that order.
karma is a bitch.

maybe not a good idea, maybe

this is a little experience/drama by proxy i thought i might share with the community so we may all learn from it: it is probably not a good idea to get drunk, take semi-naked pictures with your boyfriend on HIS digital camera (easily internet postable and emailable). that is lesson 1. lesson 2: when you break up with him do NOT text message him (when you mean to text someone else) and say "OMG (insert bf's name here) has naked pictures of me and we're not talking anymore! what the fuck am i going to do!" maybe, maaaaybe not a good idea.

what a good friend does

so i was relaying the many stories of last weekend to my friends here, and it made me think about my friends. the friends i have left in wisconsin. all of them i love to death, but i want to strangle a few of them sometimes as well. and it makes me wonder where the boundaries between normal ups and downs of a friendship are and when you are holding on to something that maybe has expired. if a friend walks around a bar while she's wasted telling all the guys that they should sleep with me, that i see as forgivable, only because in her drunken state of mind it was coming from a good place. she was doing me a "favor". even if this favor got me leered at and a random guy tried to make out with me before even talking to me. she was trying to be a good friend. but when a friend tells a group of friends and aquaintances that i slept with a guy who has a fiance, i then correct her an say that i didn't know at the time, and she fires back, something about me cheating with someone else who was proposing, all of which is twisted and distorted, not true, and only said to make her feel better about herself andwhat was being joked about at the table. and is it really necessary to bring up other people's business in front of people we don't know that well? i live my life without regrets, so i shouldn't have to bear the brunt of other people's.

ASSHOLE!

now i know he probably told you to go fuck your mother, but you are the team captain! you CANNOT headbutt someone in the fucking chest!! not cool!

oooohhhhhh! red card big fucking surprise there! you should've kept your temper in check! now you're out of the game for the rest of OT and penalty kicks! and who ended up losing in PK's?! you! and you are so good at those! you fucked over your team in your last game before international retirement! stupid.

now why don't you go cry about it.

class warfare bitches

So i was reading Joe Klein's new article in this week's Time magazine, and FINALLY! the dems are getting it. they are growing some balls. the gop has been dragging politics into the dirt election cycle after cycle for decades. and they aren't even concentrating on real issues. flag burning ammendments, gay marriage, all fluff. things that get people on the right all riled up, because CONSTITUTIONALLY you have to oppose shit like that, and then the character assasains can come out and say shit like, he likes to burn flags! he hates his country! it seems like this happens every year and we are unprepared. but it looks like for once some candidates are getting it right. they are advocating a little old-fashioned class warfare. hells yeah. and they are actually bringing out the guns to fire back at the ridiculous character assasains. here are two exerpts from Klein's article that i particularly enjoyed:

"'Fella comes in for a trim on his flattop because he's running for U.S. Senate. Guess he didn't want anybody to know he opposes a gay-marriage ban. Thinks flag burning is a right. And supports higher taxes. So I told him, 'You're gonna need a lot more than a haircut to cover up all that' ... Didn't leave much of a tip either."
To which the Montana Democratic Party immediately responded with an ad that replayed the "tip" line of the ad and then went on: "Here's a tip. The man attacking Jon Tester is an actor. A fake, sent by Senator Burns' Washington friends to tell lies about Jon Tester ... It's bad enough that Burns took thousands of dollars from sleazy lobbyist Jack Abramoff's associate and then changed his vote ..." And so on."

Damn straight! HOLLA!

"In Virginia, for example, the campaign of Democratic nominee Jim Webb—a decorated Marine and a former Republican—responded to a Republican ad that accused him of supporting flag burning by saying, "People who live in glass dude ranches"—Webb's opponent, Senator George Allen, spent summers working on ranches while Webb was in Vietnam—"should not question the patriotism of real soldiers who fought and bled for this country on a real battlefield.'"

AWW SHIT! now can we get people like those on the Web campaign on all the campaigns for open seats and targeted seats across the country? maybe if people actually get their hands dirty we can get some shit done in this country.

reflection addendum

so a couple weeks ago i posted about this guy i hooked up with who turned out to have a girlfriend. yeeeeaaah. addendum: apparently the "girlfriend" wasn't a girlfriend, but a FIANCE. that was a nice touch. i was joking about how i needed a guy, and the mutual friend, jokingly said, "haha, well xyz will be in town next weekend!" i then said, "well if his girlfriend gives him a freebie weekend have him give me a call!" (joking) then my friend responds, "don't you mean his fiance?" jigga what? yeah. so this corroborates krystal's doctor's statement: all guys in ny cheat, whether they're your boyfriend, your fiance, or your husband. so WRAP IT UP! yes her doctor actually said that. classic.

leave me alone!!

this reminds me so much of when i tried to cancel aol about 5 years ago. they are crazy psychos. instead of canceling they kept giving me free service. i don't want free service. i want your virus of a software program off of my computer FOREVER!

some serious spin

so when i read this i had to go back and re-read it two or three more times because the story just didn't make sense. take a look:

LONDON -- Former "Baywatch" star David Hasselhoff had surgery after severing a tendon in his right arm in an accident in a London gym bathroom, his spokeswoman said Friday.
The 53-year-old actor, who played lifeguard Mitch Buchannon on the TV beach drama for 11 years, was shaving at a gym in the Sanderson Hotel on Thursday when he hit his head on a chandelier, showering his arm with broken glass, his publicist, Judy Katz, said.
Doctors operated to repair the injury and Hasselhoff spent one night at St. Thomas' Hospital in central London, Katz said. --- from AP

ok, now how in the hell do you hit your head on a chandelier while shaving? are you swinging from the thing at the time? wtf david hasselhoff? what is going on in that gym? you are seriously giving your publicist a workout coming up with that ridiculous story.

not what i had in mind

so two days ago i decided that i needed new bedroom karma. and i have a few little things i do, like new sheets among other things. so yesterday it seemed that i got immediate results, but not the kind i was looking for. first as i was waiting for the subway this guy in his fifties starts hitting on me. eww. he asks me out for drinks, ummm it's early afternoon, and i'm not an alkie, but thanks though. again with this lolita bullshit? then i'm at the campaign headquarters, which i have tried to avoid because of the group leader guy who is a little skeevy for me. but i have to pick up my paycheck. so i'm there and he asks me to spend the weekend with him upstate. WHAT!?! "well," he says, "we have some work to do in key congressional districts, and i'd like you to help me out." AHH! i'd rather have a hole in my head thank you. then i leave and i'm walking down the street and a van full of brazilian guys are honking and shouting out the windows at me, hey baby, and all that shit. blah blah blah. not the new karma i was hoping for.